INCANDESCENCE: Chapter #42 Part II. Longing For Belonging

Warblers And Wildflowers drawings by Clare Cooley for blog

This art featured in my memoir, Incandescence: Rising Above Darkness is included as a moment of serenity between chapters and does not necessarily have any literal connection to the story.

Incandescence: Rising Above Darkness Excerpt Chapter #42 Part II. Longing For Belonging

I had surrendered my shields and stood bare before them, and those who did not like their own image in the reflective surface of my vulnerability shattered my mirror heart. Still water is easily disturbed.

Light blackness

Womb of worlds 

Before the big bang

A minuscule speck

Containing all possibilities

Goddess blinks

Everything 

We can imagine

Into existence   

Moments before, I thought I had found someplace I thought I could belong. Then in the next instant, the dancing rainbows on the surface of my bubble burst.

Quaking leaf heart

Blown apart by winds of insecurity

No matter in the eyes of eternity

All troubles tiny as a caterpillar’s eyelash

Fear takes sweetness hostage

Everyone who loses

Confidence in their worthiness 

Fuels fire of disdain 

Hold tight to convictions

Let the wind of gossip blow

Respect your integrity

Do not feed the desire to contain

What cannot be contained

Fear fuels judgment

Love is the unshakable 

Devotion to kindness

Stand for something

Become a target

Dare to trust

Be struck down

Know infinite love

Be hated

By those who do not

Love self

Go to the 

Well of forgiveness

Drink waters of welcome

Love with exiled heart

Poem pure

Like a flower

Turned into snake 

Strikes me

Venom transforms hurt 

Into sweet forgiveness

When we got back to California, Christine reminded me of the dream I told her while I was visiting her in Italy. The night I slept with the shaman’s book under my pillow I dreamt it was Halloween, but I did not want to dress up. I just wanted to be myself. I went down to the water, and there were two native men, one was feminine and comfortable with me, and the other was masculine and threatened by me. An earthquake came, and I suggested we go into the water to get away from the rocks at the shore and float through the quake. After the shaking passed, we all walked up the dirt road, got in a white van, and drove away. 

I went to the workshop hopeful and longing for belonging. I returned and shared my experience with the family therapist, who had known me for fifteen years. I asked him, “Is this strange I am feeling sad about women telling me I am pretty? Do you understand why?” 

He answered, “I think I do. It is that you have worked your whole life on polishing an inner jewel that they don’t even see.”     

At that moment, my longing for belonging faded into an appreciation of being seen.

Clare Cooley

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